Letting Go Can Be As Hard or Harder Than the Change!!
Does this sound familiar…..
Something happens in your life & you think of it often, it is the story you tell everyone!! Maybe you have forgiven but not forgotten!! It can be extremely difficult to move beyond that occurrence!! YOU have actually let it define who you are as a person!!
If we want our lives to change…..to get better…then we HAVE to let go of that past that has us stuck in the quagmire!! Now, that is NOT easy to do!!
YOU have to CHOOSE to let go!! Oh, I can hear the”BUTs” flying around the room!! LOL!! But this is serious business!! Your future…..the life you want is waiting for you to release that old stuff so that there is room for the new!!
So, how do we accomplish this?? One step at a time, of course!!
Take a sheet of paper (Yes, I am a pen & paper freak!! LOL!!) & write down everything about that past occurrence that now defines who you are…..EVERYTHING!! (The next part will sound familiar…) Cross off anything you have no control over!! What is left??
This is where you CHOOSE to take the necessary steps to make it through the change that will improve your life!!
Pick the easiest thing on the list first, in order to get that positive momentum going, & make a plan to banish that past thing from your life!!
For instance, I let my creative side get subdued as a child, until last year. So here is what I did…..first I decided what I wanted to do to get my creative juices flowing. What would be easiest??
I chose to buy some colored pencils & an adult coloring book & started playing with them for 20 minutes every day. Then an online friend introduced me to the art of Zentangle. If you haven’t heard of it, check out the official website at https://www.zentangle.com/zentangle-method
It was exactly what I needed!!
So I got the appropriate supplies & have never looked back!! It is one of the best CHOICES I have ever made!! It was a conscious choice I made that has improved & enhanced my life greatly!!
Sometimes it is something much more serious that has us trapped.
Again, myself as an example, I had 2 failed marriages!! I can’t blame them completely, I made some bad choices there too. But, I kept trying to hang on because I was scared to let go!! Finally, for my own safety, I had to let go!!
Do I remember all the bad stuff?? Yes, but I remember some of the good stuff, too!! However…..I do NOT let those mistakes define who I am!! If I had not let go, I never would have met & married my Hubby, love of my life, of 30 years that passed away in 2011 after a lengthy illness!!
(Us, wreck diving on the USS Bibb & USS Duane, artificial reefs in Atlantic, in 1991) I wanted to learn to scuba dive & I am a good swimmer, but I have asthma so can be claustrophobic at times. It was extremely hard for me to let go of the surface & breathing normally to going down to 135ft below the surface & breathing with the scuba tank!! Sounds simple, right?? WRONG!! Just on the first dive of any day we went diving, I would panic breathe & use way too much air just trying to get off the surface & start down!! SO, because I couldn’t “let go”, Jim would go down first & grab my ankle & head down!! Did I panic?? Yes, at first, for about 3 breaths but then I was fine & he swam right beside me in case I needed to go back to the surface. Sounds dramatic, but it was the support I needed to accomplish the “Change” I needed to go through to enrich my life!! We had some remarkable experiences diving & saw amazing things!! I never considered that slight inconvenience on the first dive of the day as a problem, just a step I needed to take to make the change I wanted!! In fact, we went on to get certified in Open Water, Deep Diving, Wreck Diving, & Rescue Diving. Unfortunately, I can no longer dive due to bone surgery I had on my sinuses. I cannot equalize pressure well enough to dive. BUMMER!!
It is scary to let go of the familiar, no matter how bad it is, but how can the wonderful change that life has in store for us happen if we continually hang on to the past or an unhealthy relationship or a bad job or a toxic friend, whatever it is that we need to let go of…??
If you want/need to take control of your life back & go through a change for the better, check out my “Mind-to-Matter” series. The sign-up box is below & it is only 3 emails but it can really help get you started in the right direction!!
Also, I have a YouTube video on this subject at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdj_UNb3ErQ
I hope this info is helpful!! If you have any questions or concerns or suggestions, please comment below or send me an email at Jaebyrd@jaebn.com!! I promise I will get back to you as quickly as I can!! I would LOVE to hear if this works for you, too!!
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May Stardust & Moonbeams light your path….Hugzz ~ Jae