Okay, sounds a bit strange, I know, but we can’t be focused & available for others until we refill our “tank”!!
In order to give out, there has to be something in there to give. In today’s world, we tend to go…go…go & give…give….give…BUT, we never stop to refuel!!
What refuels Your tank??
Is it sitting somewhere quiet, taking in the beauty of nature around you?? Is it having a nice cup of tea & reading a good book while curled up in a comfy chair?? How about a lazy, luxurious bath with your favorite Lush bath salts??
It can be anything that helps you to slow down, settle your mind, refocus, & recharge your battery!!
Sunshine, a hot cup of tea & a good book do it for me!! What do you do to reuel your tank….recharge your battery??
Oh, this is what everyone is talking about right now, “Self-Care”!!
I am old enough to remember when I was a child….eons ago….my grandmother had a self-care ritual. I didn’t know that is what it was, it was just something she did everyday….EVERYDAY!!
About 3PM, she would make a pot of tea. She was a real tea aficionado. She usually had these flat cookie-like things she called “raisin biscuits” that she ordered from England with her tea. I would get home from school & we would have what she called….high tea.
It was really quite the ritual with her tea service, sugar cubes, fresh lemon, orange blossom honey, raisin biscuits or little cucumber & peanut butter sandwiches, her good china tea cups & saucers & of course a tea cozy on the pot to keep the tea warm.
We would discuss our day, & talk about the book we were reading, then for about 45 minutes to an hour, we would quietly read. If there were words in the book I didn’t know, she would either tell me the meaning or give me the dictionary. (She was REALLY a LOT like “Auntie Mame”!!) This was her quiet time….her refueling time.
At about 4:30 PM, she would “get cleaned up”, as she called it. She washed up, put on fresh make-up & perfume, & a nice housedress that was always ironed & starched. She also got a fresh linen hankie for her pocket. She would come down to the kitchen, put on her pretty apron, & start supper. When my grandfather got home about 6PM, supper was on the table & for the rest of the evening, it was all about him….& letting him recharge!! He had a hard job as a pipe fitter/steam fitter at the local oil refinery.
My mother was a hospital administrator & she had a folding lounge chair in the supply room & she took 15 minute power naps in the afternoon.
I miss those raisin biscuits & high tea!! Like most everyone else, I seldom slow down to recharge & refuel!! Our world is now supercharged….moving at lightening speed with no time to rest, let alone have high tea!!
Well, my friend, Kirsten Rosetti is the queen of self-care!! She has been talking about its importance for several years now & she is right!!
I have started having high tea again. Every afternoon around 2PM, I recharge for about an hour!! Depending on my clients & meetings, I may have to adjust the time, but I still do it.
My body is thanking me for it because it lowers my stress level, my blood pressure is coming down, I am sleeping better at night, I have more energy, & I just feel better!! There are still some days I can’t do this, but most days, I do!!
This time of year, my big lilac bush blooms. I bring in the flowers & put them on my desk. They smell so good & are so pretty!! This refuels me a little bit everytime I look at them. When I lived in Florida, I floated gardenia blossoms from the bush in my yard in a dish on my desk. I really miss those!!
Changing what you are thinking about, what you are looking at, getting away from your desk & tech devices for even 10-15 minutes allows your brain to rest & reboot.
It is best if you can go from your critical thinking & problem solving mindset to somethning creative, artistic….even if you are NOT an artist!! This is for YOU, not for anyone else!! This allows your brain to switch gears & helps it refuel & refocus.
When you return to your work, you will find you can focus better & think clearer. According to medical studies, sometimes as little as 2 or 3 minutes of creative behavior has lowered blood pressure significantly!!
This creative process uses the “other” side of our brain & so stress is relieved & our thinking changes. Our perspective changes!!
Here are some of the things you can do:
- draw, doodle, or paint
- color a picture
- play in your planner – PLAY, not stress over To Do Lists….do your next spread, add a few drawings or stickers, etc.
- enjoy a cup of tea or coffee
- have a glass of wine
- take a walk outside in nature, notice the flowers & beauty around you, really look at it & focus on it
- crochet, knit, quilt, or embroidery
- DIY something
- cut & arrange some flowers
- light some candles, put on soft music, & take a leisurely bath
- read some in your favorite book
- get on the floor & play with your children or pets
Enjoy this quality time!! Don’t be thinking about what you “should” be doing or what you have to do next, just enjoy this & focus on just this refueling activity or rest. You can even take a short nap if that is what refuels you!!
I hope this has given you some ideas on how to focus better & think clearer as a result of a few minutes of self-care!! Refuel that tank so you can keep giving out to others!! Please leave a comment about what you do to refuel!! When you comment, that gives us ideas to try too!!
I hope the information in this post has been helpful for you. I am so glad you joined me on this Journey!!
PLEASE ask any questions you have, because you never know who you could be helping with your questions!! I WANT to hear from you!! You can leave a comment here or you can just email me at Jaebyrd@jaebn.com with “Refuel” in the subject line.
I promise I will get back to you as quickly as I can!!
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May Stardust & Moonbeams light your path….
Hugzz ~ Jae
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