So, my friends, how is your NEW year going so far?? Good, I hope!!
Let’s talk about this whole “Goal Setting” bomb that we are being blasted with from everyone online right now!! I don’t do “goals” per se, I do Intentions, Focus Points, & Action Steps.
But, first there is something I have to do…..
Think about it, everything has a consequence!! Every thought, action, spoken word, etc. has a consequence…an outcome…a result… attached to it!!
Are you currently seeing the consequences you want in your life?? Are those consequences worth the time & energy you spent to achieve them??
If so, great!! BUT…if not, you need to do what my Grandfather used to say, “You need to cut bait & run!”
He was a fisherman & when he snagged a fish, if the battle took longer that a few minutes to land the fish, he would cut the bait & re-set the line. He would put a new hook on the line with a sinker & bait & put the line back in the water.
Usually that line he had cut was snagged on something under the water that he couldn’t see like a log or vegetation….some debris in the water. It was a useless waste of time & energy to battle this unseen foe!! His focus, time & energy needed to be on catching fish, not fighting battles he couldn’t win!!
Are you fighting useless time-sucking, energy-zapping battles that you can’t win??
Think about it, we all have the same 24 hours in the day, but why are some people successful & living life on their terms & yet some of us aren’t??
Interestingly enough, we can NOT manage Time itself, only how we spend it!! So it is not a matter of time management but of personal management & how we choose to schedule our days & our tasks….and of course, how we follow through!!
First we have to let go of our past, how we have always done things, because we know that didn’t work for us.
How we “choose” to spend our day & actually EVERY choice we make during our day, determines our consequences, our outcome, our success!!
Everything counts!! Everything either moves us closer to our Focus or father away or keeps us stagnant!!
As a business woman, you may be currently earning $25.00 per hour while someone else in your line of work is making $100.00 or more per hour. What is the difference?? They are simply spending their time on higher value tasks!!
The key to all this is not making longer to do list or trying to organize your day like they do, it is about stopping in your tracks & letting go of everything!!
Now, don’t panic, I’ll explain!!
Every time we read another blog post or go to a webinar, we add whatever ideas work for THAT person to our routine, thinking it is the answer!! It is NOT!!
What we need to do is simply stop & think!! Of the tasks I have listed for today, which are high value & which are lower value??
If you CHOOSE to do the higher value tasks first, you will be surprised at how quickly you will start accomplishing those Focus Points you identified & your Intentions will quickly become your reality!! Things will start working out for you the way you want.
When you sit down to plan your day or week, ask yourself, will this task help me complete my action steps & move me toward my focus points?? If not, then put it on a “Maybe List”, a list of things you can do when the important stuff is all done. I usually schedule ONE thing off my “Maybe List” at the end of each work day. If I am able to get it done, fine, if not, no big deal. If I schedule it 3 days & don’t get it done, it goes on a “NOT To Do List” which is in the back of my planner in the “Someday” section. I go through this section every quarter & toss what is no longer something I care about or that no longer serves me.
How do we choose what is of high value??
If something has high consequence, then that is a higher value task. Is it something that can change your life?? Can it effect your life for years to come?? Ask yourself, “what are the consequences if I do this….if I don’t?? You have to know when to “cut bait & run”!!
Don’t allow guilt….other’s expectations….should….etc. to govern how you choose to spend what time you have!!
YOU are the Captain of your ship & YOU need to sail it, not let others sail it for you!!
Once you realize that something is/was a mistake or has become a terrible time-suck, cut bait….STOP doing it, or pursuing it!!
I started my professional life as a model. I was successful & rising in the ranks, but my mother decided that it was not a stable career for me so she wanted me to be a nurse. Now that was a stable career in which I would always be able to work. Problem was, I didn’t want to be a nurse.
I did everything I could to sabotage my entry into nursing school…didn’t work!! The Universe had other plans for me!!
I decided that if I was going to have to be a nurse for the rest of my life, I was going to be the best possible nurse I could be!! And I was!! I was very successful & respected as a nurse.
Then I had to retire after 30 years due to a serious injury. NOW what?? During my recovery & rehab, my husband convinced me, quite logically at the time considering my situation, to give up my nursing licenses because I would never be able to work as a nurse again. Licenses are expensive, there is continuing education to do, & I was licensed in 3 states, so I did what he asked & gave them up.
If only I had known then what I know now!!
You see, if I had known, I could have worked in a different capacity as a nurse. I could have done a lot of things besides work in a hospital or clinic.
Fast forward to 5 years ago. My husband died, now what do I do?? Well, I didn’t DO anything but exist!! I was what I call a “Grief Zombie”!! I didn’t do anything proactive. I withdrew from everyone & everything!! I essentially became a hermit.
Last year, I woke up one day & decided enough is enough!! I made a “CHOICE to change my life & to go back to what I knew best….helping other people live better lives!! In June of last year I started my blog, JaeByrd’s Nest http://www.jaebn.com.
No, I am no longer a licensed nurse, but I still have all that knowledge & experience. I still know how to help people through major changes & transitions in their lives. I am still good at getting to root of a situation or problem. I still have a lot to contribute to the world.
I said all that to say this….YOU have to CHOOSE for yourself….don’t let others make your choices for you!!
This will help you:
- Choose what is important to you & what is insignificant
- Focus on what is important = Focus Points
- Set your Intentions
- Determine what Action Steps are needed to reach your Focus Points
- Schedule those Action Steps in your planner daily
- Then just DO THEM!!
I have a project in the works for you, regarding this very subject!! What I need from you are your questions on the topic!! What do you do?? What do you need?? What is your opinion?? What gives you the most trouble?? What topics would you like me to cover??
You can either post a comment here on the blog, email me directly at Jaebyrd@jaebn.com, or “DM” me on InstaGram at @jaesnest. I REALLY want to hear from you!!
Let’s start a conversation because you never know who might just need YOUR ideas!! Please leave comments & let’s talk!!
I hope this info is helpful!! If you have any questions or concerns or suggestions, please comment below or send me an email!! I promise I will get back to you as quickly as I can!! I would LOVE to hear how this works for you, too!!
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May Stardust & Moonbeams light your path….Hugzz ~ Jae