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How I journeyed from the Chaos of Change to the Sanity of Success!! Check out my latest blog at wwwljaebn.com!!

My life has been one continual change after another!!  I thought I had learned to live in chaos & to successfully sort things out.  After all, that is what I do….I am a Change Specialist or Transitional coach!!  I help people going through major life or business changes or those in utter overwhelm & bring them back to sanity & success.

I worked over 30 years as an RN & have spent my adult life helping others to get back on a successful track & headed toward accomplishing their dreams!!

This is my husband, Jim, & I wreck diving in the Florida Keys,  THAT was my life before he got sick & died!!

Jim had heart disease & diabetes & had had a stroke but was still very active.  While we always knew he would die before me, we didn’t expect the dramatic turn our lives would take!!

We had a rather old fashioned marriage, he managed all the finances & I worked & brought home my check, never worrying if we had money when I went to the store or for our vacation trips.  BUT….that was soon to change!!

We noticed he was having a few memory issues but attributed them to his general health issues.  He went into heart failure & the doctor recommended we put him under the care of Hospice for financial reasons & for all the help & support they provided.  This was a tough & humbling decision for both of us.

I was a nurse & shouldn’t need help caring for my husband, but I am SO thankful we decided to go under Hospice’s care, because he quite suddenly took a turn for the worse & I got up one morning & he did not recognize me.

What none of us realized was that he had Alzheimer’s disease!!  We had not had time for him to go over our finances with me.  I had not had time to prepare for this.  My life was suddenly thrown into the Chaos of Change!!

He became bed-bound & I cared for him, by myself, for the next nine months.  Hospice provided a nurse once a week to check on him, & they provided the hospital bed/equipment & meds he needed, but no other support care was available because we lived so remotely.

That was the toughest 9 months of my life!!

On the morning of the day he died, he recognized me & we spent several hours talking about wonderful things during our marriage.  I thank God for that miracle!!  He died peacefully that evening in his sleep.

I spent the next 4 years being a grief zombie.  Just going through the bare minimum basics of living.

I didn’t care about anything, he left me penniless with a huge amount of debt….he had not been paying bills & had racked up huge credit card debt in my name. Everything we owned & did was in my name because he wanted things to be easier for me when he died.

Out of this financial need, I decided to restart my consulting/coaching business.  I made several attempts at starting a blog & the business, but my heart really wasn’t in it & I really did not know what to do.  I was just “going through the motions” of living.

Then a friend reached out & offered her help & support to get my website up & running.  Basically, she was doing what I had done for years & what my business was all about….coaching someone through change!!

I was finally back on track & anxious to get things moving.  That was last June when I launched my website & started this blog.  Then….

I guess you would say I was still just going through the motions.  Oh, I was consistent if nothing else!!  I published my blog weekly, had my first new client, & helped a couple of old clients.  But, something still wasn’t right!!  It was like I had no “passion” left for what I do best….helping other people.

I fell into another slump of sorts….sporadic posting, going down the rabbit hole of Facebook or Pinterest daily!!  Then I saw a statement made by Suzanne Cushwa Rusnak, the coordinator of mindfulness programming at the Connor Integrative Medicine Network at University Hospitals in Cleveland, Ohio.  She said, “When we’re focusing our awareness on the present moment, we’re not stressing about the future or the past.”  The article went on to say,“Try to focus on different physical sensations throughout the day, like each breath as you inhale or exhale or the feeling of the ground beneath your feet.  You might discover peace in unexpected places.”

It was like someone had taken Thor’s hammer to my brain!!  THIS is what I teach others!!  DUH!!

SO…my journey from the Chaos of Change to the Sanity of Success started!!  I must say, so far, so good!!  LOL!!

I am in the process of taking what I know & the techniques I use with my clients & developing a program for other women who are going through a life or business change or just need to sort out the chaos of their everyday life & to ultimately get to Sanity & Success!!

I hope to be publishing a blog weekly, as I do this in a series!!  I could use your help too….

  • I would like to know what issues you are dealing with.
  • What type of chaos or change is in your life that you could use a helping hand with??
  • Are you going through a job change, promotion or downsizing, a divorce, death of a loved one, overwhelmed with your business, or trying to manage your home, family & business, etc.??

I CAN help!!  Just post in the comments or shoot me an email at Jaebyrd@jaebn.com.  You NEVER know who else you could be helping with your questions!!

I hope this info is helpful!!  If you have any questions or concerns or suggestions, please comment below or send me an email!!  I promise I will get back to you as quickly as I can!!

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May Stardust & Moonbeams light your path….Hugzz ~ Jae



3 thoughts on “My Journey from the Chaos of Change to the Sanity of Success

  1. Hi, this is @amirisblessed and I am currently 4 years a SAHM. I planned to start an etsy shop this year because I crochet. I make anything from amirgurmi/dolls to blankets. This year I am in a slump. I find it hard some days to just find balance. How do you balance being yourself, wife, mother and a future entrepreneur?

    1. Lya, I would be lying if I said it was always easy!! But, I have found that having an accountability partner helps to keep me motivated!! I do not have children, but I get the overwhelm & not knowing which way to turn. I had an Etsy shop where I sold my jewelry & art, but then I got in a slump. My husband died & I was a “grief zombie” for about 4 years. I didn’t do anything but just exist & barely that!! When I finally came up for air, I realized I now had to support myself. So, I joined a MasterMind Group & started my blog. I have been slow getting my business up & running because I am not a techie person & the website was a real challenge. Now, 2 years later, I am getting ready to launch!! I will be having a Mastermind group of women entrepreneurs & additionally, I will have individual coaching/mentoring sessions. I will also be getting my art back in my Etsy shop. My email address is Jaebyrd@jaebn.com. Why don’t you email me & tell me more about your situation & I may be able to give you more insight. I will be happy to help you any way I can!!
      Hugzz ~ Jae

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