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I live in the country on a farm, so I enjoy watching the wild life, especially the birds.  it is fascinating to me to watch their life cycle……building a nest, laying eggs, caring for the eggs. the male & females roles, the chicks hatching, becoming fledglings, learning to fly, leaving the nest, & starting their own “families”.  Some I have been able to watch through multiple generations because they are tagged & tracked by the Wildlife Department.

One thing I noticed is that they spend alot of time “preening”.  The dictionary defines “preen” as:  

v.  to smooth feathers with beak;  to trim or adorn oneself.

I noticed that during this process, if a feather stuck out or would not go into its proper place, the bird would pluck it out.  That feather then became part of the nest.  The birds preened themselves, but the mother also preened the chicks.  While it make have been uncomfortable for the feather to be plucked, the nest became more comfortable as a whole.  The soft feathers lined the nest giving protection, warmth & comfort.

I think the “changes” we go through in life are much like the “preening” the birds do.  Sometimes we do the preening ourselves…..make whatever changes, pluck out things that no longer serve us or “smooth” ruffled areas of our lives.  And…..SOMETIMES……we need someone else to HELP us “preen” or to do the “preening” for us.

Sometimes we just need help sorting through things……helping us to see all sides of the coin, good & bad.  You know, when you are having trouble focusing or making a decision that you “THINK” you know what you should do but just aren’t sure.

F.E.A.R. = False Examples Against Reason.  You know…..ALL those “what ifs”!!

FEAR is our greatest enemy!!  AND, FEAR is what prevents us from attaining our Goals.  It is the BIGGEST HINDERANCE in our lives!!

Fear, the flight or fight response to something unsure or foreign to us, was necessary for our ancestors survival.  BUT…..this is an emotion that more often than not, we let take over our lives.  Oh, it still “serves” us for protection in our lives, but we allow it full reign!!

It took me a while to get this concept through my thick skull, to quote my Mom.  ::tee hee::  I learned to accept change, even enjoy change.  Change brings something “new” into our lives.  It helps us grow & excell!!  I have been through the, uncomfortble at times, stage of preening & removing bird feathers that did not serve me any more.  Sometimes I did this myself & sometimes I needed help.

My beloved Husband LOVED change!!  That is, change in the environment of living.  We moved 11 times in 30yrs.  He was ALWAYS rearranging the furniture.  I would come home from an evening or night shift & fall over furniture that he had moved.  We ran a Christian outreach in our area & we helped people in need.  It was never unusual for me to come home to NO living room furniture or no dishes in the kitchen.  If someone needed the item, he gave it.  At first, I was furious & argumentative about it.  Then we would bargain about things, finally I just accepted who he was & rolled with it.  Now, I wanted to help those in need, too, but I wanted to buy them what they needed, not give them ours.  He felt if we gave what we had, we would get better…..he was RIGHT!!  We also ran a food outreach, the same way.  No matter how bad things got for us, I always had a roof over my head & food in the pantry & a bed to sleep in.  I had been homeless for a short time when I was younger, so these were important to me!!

I have finally come out the other side, for now, & I am better for it!!  I have “Stardust” & “Shiny Baubles” in my life again!!

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May Stardust & Moonbeams light your path….

Hugzz ~ Jae

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