Spring’s Awakening is a wonder to behold!!
All the beautiful flowers in a vast array of bright colors!! Everything feels clean & new…..even the air is fresh & crisp. Our “fresh start” this Spring can be just as invigorating & clean & new as the flowers of Spring!!
Are you facing a major life change?? Are you going through something difficult that is making you feel overwhelmed & that your life is chaotic & unmanageable??
I get that!! Been there…..done that…..have the t-shirt to prove it!! LOL!!
Growing up as an only child of a mentally abusive mother & frequently changing father figures, I was so beat down mentally that I could not even think without help. I was extremely immature & insecure. I was afraid of others so I kept to myself. I WANTED friends, but did not know how to make them & I had trust issues because of my Mom. To say I had a troubled childhood is an understatement!! But to the outside world, Mom was the perfect mother & we were a happy, well adjusted family.
I grew up as the “albatross” around my mother’s neck!! She was a career woman in the 1940-50’s (worked her way up to Hospital Assistant Administrator) who NEVER wanted children. She frequently reminded me that she wished she had never had me. I was just an obligation to her. I am SO fortunate to have had a loving Grandmother that protected me as best she could.
If I were to write a book about my life, it would be labeled “fiction” because no one would ever believe one person could go through so much…..but I DID!! It was difficult & confusing & hurtful, BUT…..it is what made me the strong, compassionate woman I am today!!
During my life, I always had to take other people’s feelings, directions, & concerns into account. I was never able to make decisions on my own…..until I became a widow & my Mom died. Suddenly I am an adult & can go anywhere, do anything, decide anything I want. This was overwhelming & scary for me!! It took me quite a while to adjust to making my own decisions!! But now I am able to do the one thing I have always been good at…..helping others go through major life changes with dignity & grace.
Let’s see what major life changes I have been through…..
- did not know biological father until in my late 30’s
- mother mentally & emotionally abusive & she was a perfectionist
- nothing I ever did was good enough
- mother married MULTIPLE times….never knew what man she would be with next
- Lived with my Grandparents until my grandfather died…..I was about 10yo & had to go back to live with my mother
- one of Mom’s husbands adopted me & was a wonderful father
- we had lived in 10 different homes by the time I reached high school
- married at 18yo to get away from Mom……only lasted 3yrs
- became a nurse because Mom wanted me to
- married a Viet Nam vet….lasted 6yrs until he assaulted me
- was homeless for a short while until I could get enough money for an apartment…..Mom refused to help me
- adopted father murdered…..made national news
- finally married a wonderful man & we were married for 30yrs
- I became disabled & had to give up my nursing license because I could no longer work
- lived in 26 different houses during my adult life
- Survived cancer & multiple major surgeries & treatments
- cared for my husband who had Alzheimer’s Disease & was bedbound the last year of his life
- became a widow about 5yr ago & was left in a horrible financial situation
Those are just the highlights!! LOL!! You would probably expect me to be sitting in a puddle on the floor!! But I made “Change” my friend & it helped me to survive despite what I had to face.
THIS is why I am uniquely qualified to help others going through major life changes & experiencing overwhelm & exhaustion!! Now, I am NO LONGER a nurse & I am NOT a therapist!! I am a good listener, an empath, & am able to sort through the chaos & make a simple plan to wade through it all to a successful & rewarding conclusion.
I have this amazing “gift” of optimism & joy & I love to share it with others!! Life is hard enough, but when you approach it with a “glass half full” as opposed to a “glass half empty” attitude, it is much easier to navigate those currents & eddies!!
I sincerely hope this post has made sense to you & resonates with you!! This is my authentic self!! I am just a woman with 68 years of experience & wisdom who is available to help you sort through the chaos, help you develop a plan & will encourage you & be available for help as you proceed down your path.